In the past few months, there have been several occasions where I have been in a situation that I needed to give an *elevator pitch. Although it shouldn’t feel awkward, it’s often the case for me. I have what I refer to as a predisposition to a genetic humbleness. Talking about myself or putting myself out there doesn’t always feel comfortable. And then, more often than not, I have others telling me that I need to put myself out there more. The Who said it best…”See Me….Feel Me….Touch me….Heal Me….”
It’s a natural human condition to want to be “seen”. Regardless of who you are and what you believe, we all want to be recognized in some way or another. Significance is a basic human need. We all crave and need it to reach a personal level of fulfillment. However, this is where the split happens. For some, being seen means constantly putting themselves out there and craving all and any attention, both negative and positive. For others, it presents itself in the form of service to others. Being seen as a contributor to society, a humanitarian, or simply a helpful person.
I have struggled with this for most of my life. I have often been labeled as shy and quiet. I am what most would consider introverted, and happy to be such. I never felt the need to jump up and say “here I am!” It’s just not who I am.
However, there has been some sort of a push lately to do otherwise. Actually, it’s more of a nudge, as I manage to maintain my comfort zone. I don’t always agree with stepping too far out of the comfort zone. When someone gets pushed out too far, we may see a lack of authenticity. Authenticity is very important to me- keeping true to who I am is something I have struggled to find. I am not about to lose sight of that.
It’s true that we grow when we push ourselves. Instead of pushing out of the comfort zone, why not stretch out within your authenticity zone. Keep true to who you are, while experiencing growth at the same time.
This past year has taught me some incredible life lessons, especially one in gratitude. It’s not that I didn’t have gratitude before, but this was a much deeper lesson. I have always had gratitude for the people in my life, the love I experience from my loved ones, and even the material possessions that provide daily comfort in my life. This is much more than all this.
New Year’s Resolutions aren’t really my thing, I prefer to live in the present. It’s a positive act to set the intention and there is much to benefit from such achievements. However, I often view resolutions as ideas that someone sees as a far-off and perhaps even unattainable long-term goal. Set those intentions, but live in the present at the same time. Make those changes today, even if they seem small.Continue Reading
It was one of those moments when time becomes irrelevant. My senses felt blocked to anything outside of the current task. With an inkling of doubt and a slight hesitation, I proceeded to strike as hard as I could. Or at least I thought I did. The brick sat there, staring at me. I looked up and at that very moment, I realized I had to go through with this. In front of me sat the master, several instructors and fellow students looking on. As I was given the motion to try again, a voice came into my head….”mind, body, spirit.” It was my dad’s voice, with three simple words that had set an anchor to what I now needed to do. I collected my thoughts and cleared my mind. This time there was no try….I broke it. The year was 1994 and I had just tested for my black belt (1st Dan) in Tae Kwon Do. Continue Reading
Everyone is busy these days. Ask someone that you haven’t seen in a while how they’ve been and most likely they will say “oh, I have been so busy.” It’s like a modern day art, an expected way of life. With the dawn of “the busy life” new words or phrases have made their debut in an effort to set a balance to the “crazy busy”. Self-care and earthing are two that come to mind. Self-care isn’t really a new phrase as many view this as something you do for yourself, such as- getting a manicure or going for a walk. However, true self-care is something rarely practiced by many of us. Taking the time to truly slow down, to breathe, to focus, to simply do nothing. It is a practice to consciously do nothing. Continue Reading
Most likely the dirtiest word ever…the “c” word. One that causes many to cringe and so very few to express delight in hearing it. A word that forces us out of our shells and makes us step into the great unknown. This word, change, is as constant as the moon and sun play chase around the Earth. The one thing we can expect in life is that things will change. Situations in our future lives will not be exactly as they are now. For the most part, changes in our lives are good-even though it may not seem like a positive occurrence at the moment. Continue Reading