Even though it was over 20 years ago, I have a distinct memory of one of my Tae Kwon Do masters reminding us to “tend our own garden and not waste our time looking over the fence at the neighbors garden.” At the time, as we understood, it was with the intention of encouraging our group of testing students to work on our own training.
Hop into my car and you may be treated (or tortured?) to a variety of tunes. It could be Slayer, Dio, Bad Religion, perhaps, Blackmore’s Night, The Beatles, Spiral Dance or even Bob Marley. Maybe even a sprinkling of Madonna, INXS, Johnny Cash, or Scott Joplin. When it comes to music, it’s easier to ask what I don’t listen to. I like a good balance. As a matter of fact, I apply this concept of balance to most of my life.
New Year’s Resolutions aren’t really my thing, I prefer to live in the present. It’s a positive act to set the intention and there is much to benefit from such achievements. However, I often view resolutions as ideas that someone sees as a far-off and perhaps even unattainable long-term goal. Set those intentions, but live in the present at the same time. Make those changes today, even if they seem small.
It was one of those moments when time becomes irrelevant. My senses felt blocked to anything outside of the current task. With an inkling of doubt and a slight hesitation, I proceeded to strike as hard as I could. Or at least I thought I did. The brick sat there, staring at me. I looked up and at that very moment, I realized I had to go through with this. In front of me sat the master, several instructors and fellow students looking on. As I was given the motion to try again, a voice came into my head….”mind, body, spirit.” It was my dad’s voice, with three simple words that had set an anchor to what I now needed to do. I collected my thoughts and cleared my mind. This time there was no try….I broke it. The year was 1994 and I had just tested for my black belt (1st Dan) in Tae Kwon Do.
Everyone is busy these days. Ask someone that you haven’t seen in a while how they’ve been and most likely they will say “oh, I have been so busy.” It’s like a modern-day art, an expected way of life. With the dawn of “the busy life” new words or phrases have made their debut in an effort to set a balance to the “crazy busy”. Self-care and earthing are two that come to mind. Self-care isn’t really a new phrase as many view this as something you do for yourself, such as- getting a manicure or going for a walk. However, true self-care is something rarely practiced by many of us. Taking the time to truly slow down, to breathe, to focus, to simply do nothing. It is a practice to consciously do nothing.